“Tony Williams” <@Tony_Williams>
Another international list I belong to recently had a nasty disagreement
ending with one fairly new member being removed by the list admin.
As is the norm, it started out as a difference of opinion on something
quite trivial. They had insulted almost everyone.
Later, someone sent this in.
I don’t necessarily agree with all of its content but I found it very
interesting, especially when you put it in the context of our beloved
Jag-lovers list. I wonder if any of us are brave enough to recognise
ourselves in the groups below ?
People vary in their behaviour when they join a list. Some hang
around modestly in the background , not daring to say much ,
but waiting until they feel confident enough to contribute to a topic.
It very often happens that this contribution is not noticed, so
unremarkable is it , and so insignificant the writer. This is discouraging,
but he perseveres until the time comes when he will be read , not only
for what he has to say, but because he has become a valued and
respected member of the list.
His name is his guarantee of the attention of the list readers.
This is the ideal member. The backbone of the group.
There are others less patient, they want to be seen and heard NOW.
They are the ones who take risks, who are prepared to make fools
of themselves, anything rather than be overlooked, but this leaves a
legacy of regrets.
These are the attention seekers, the ones with a hole in their lives.
The third group, are the ones who have done it all before…
they have a quiver full of "smart "arrows and aims them
indiscriminately, but scores every time and goes on his way rejoicing
and ready for the next conquest.
Sometimes they are good value for money even if they don’t last.
The fourth group takes time to gauge the norms of the group they
have joined and make several different attempts to engage people.
Often disappointed, when what they feel to be a minor masterpiece
is totally ignored, overjoyed when a post receives praise, hurt when
their opinion is totally floored, and despite emotional wounds,
come back for more, until one day they just quietly disappear.
The lurkers are the ballast. They keep the ship stable by the very
reason of their presence. Without them the list will die. <<<
As the venerable List Administrator Charlie says
" we are all here as guests "
as guests we should behave accordingly and respect our hosts.
Tony Williams 1985 XJ6
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